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“I don’t want to hug Papa.”

This is one of the hardest things for me to deal with as a parent. Dyson is 3 years old and spends almost all of his time with Tracy. And they just got back from a 2 week trip to visit her parents. So naturally, he’s much more attached to her than he is to me. It also doesn’t help that things at work have been pretty rough lately and I’ve been spending some late nights there.

It’s natural and I completely understand, but it hurts. He’s just a kid, he doesn’t mean anything by it. And maybe at some point, it’ll switch. But for now, he pushes me away when I try to comfort him if he’s upset or just asks for Mama if I try to help.

Still, I know that I should keep trying and keep on being there for him even if he doesn’t want me to be. I take him on trips out of the house on the weekends even though it’d be easier to disengage and just let him stay home with his mom. Because it’s the right thing to do. But sometimes it’s hard.

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8 Responses to ““I don’t want to hug Papa.””

  1. Christian Says:
    April 6th, 2013 at 9:16 am

    hey mach, someday your son read this post, smile and think …. what a great dad i have. in july i’ll be a father too and man let me tell you, you are a great dad. i enjoy your youtube vids all the time. so keep on and be brave!

    christian from germany! 😉

  2. Christian Says:
    April 6th, 2013 at 9:17 am

    sorry mach! ^^ can you change it?!

  3. Mach Says:
    April 6th, 2013 at 10:33 am

    Heh, thanks Christian. And edited for you. =)

  4. Tami Says:
    April 8th, 2013 at 7:38 pm

    大ちゃんは、それが普通です。とくに体調が悪い時は、よけいにママになるでしょう。
    大ちゃんがもっと成長すれば、パパの出番です。
    彼がパパを必要とする時が来ます。その時、しっかりと受け止めてあげてね。
    あなたは、本当に良くやっています。感心しています。
    May God bless you !

    Love,
    Tami

  5. Mach Says:
    April 8th, 2013 at 9:03 pm

    Thanks, Mom. I wonder if we were like that as kids, too.

  6. Tami Says:
    April 9th, 2013 at 12:36 am

    Bill hardly did anything like you do to Daichan now.
    あなたを連れておばあちゃんのお見舞いに三ヶ月ほど、日本に行って帰って来たとき、空港に向かえに来てくれたお父さんを見て、あなたは、泣きました。しばらく見なかったのでわすれたのでしょう、Billはあなたと同じ思いをしたでしょうね。　
    あなた達がもっと大きく成ってからは、一緒に遊んでくれるようになりました。でもプールでは、あなたが６ヶ月ぐらいから（自分で動く事が出来る頃から）、一緒に泳いでくれました。その頃は、囲いのさくが無くプールに落ちたら危険なので、泳げるようにと思ったのでしょう。
    大ちゃんは、男の子です。お父さんが必要な時が絶対に来ます。いつも暖かい心で見守ってあげてください。きっと通じています。たとえ、あなたの方に向いてくれなくても。
    神様も、私達がどんなに反抗しても私たちを愛する事を止められません。本当に感謝ですね。その愛にむくいましょう。

  7. Tami Says:
    April 9th, 2013 at 9:34 am

    You and I went to Japan June20-August12,1973.
    June 9,73 your picture in swimming pool with Bill.
    It might be your first day of swimming.
    My memory was not clear now sorry.

  8. Mach Says:
    April 9th, 2013 at 4:16 pm

    Thanks. I forgot about that story. And your memory is clearer than mine. =)